When did I get this "Plank" in my eye?

"Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me away from you or take your Holy Spirit from me." Psalm 51:10-11

The hard part about being a praying wife, other than the sacrifice of time, is maintaining a pure heart. It must be clean before God in order for you to see good results. Writing down what I'm thankful for in Bill did just that… it's hard to harbor ill will toward someone when you are being reminded of the good things about them. Cleaning our hearts out of things that can betray us toward our loved ones helps our hearts to be pure.

Have you ever prayed, "Lord, change him now!”? I did just that many times before realizing I wasn't helping Bill or myself. I was coming before God with a dirty heart. How do I know? My attitude was bad and I was expecting God to perform a miracle without accepting that I wasn't any better than him. One of the things I love about reading the scriptures and learning how to effectively pray for our husbands is that we learn so much about ourselves. God began to draw a picture of what my own heart looked like on the inside and it wasn't pretty. I had a lot of cleaning to do.

This reminds of Matthew 7:13, “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? “ Plank!!! I had a plank in my own eye...it was easy for me to bring to God all that Bill was doing wrong while leaving myself out of the equation. This isn't what God wants from us. We as wives need to come before God each day and confess any sin we have in our hearts. On those rare days when I feel like I made the right choices, held my tongue, and reacted in a godly way in all situations, God brings to my remembrance something I did. My point is this: we always have something to ask God to forgive us for. We are human created from dust. But God is faithful to answer our prayers as we seek him.

Can I encourage you? Correction is always good when it comes from our Heavenly Father. He wants to change our husbands, but wants our hearts right before him first. Why? Because we are the one who is coming to him. When you have time, go back and read all of Psalm 51. You will be encouraged, enlightened and comforted as you are reminded how Great our God is and how His mercy endures forever towards us!!



Heavenly Father, create in us a clean heart and renew a steadfast spirit within us. Don't cast us away from your presence, and do not take Your Holy Spirit from us. In Jesus Name we pray, Amen!! :o)